For the past couple of days, I have been musing on my beliefs around ancestral healing,
I no longer believe in ancestral healing the way the spiritual community still does. From the get-go, I have seen ancestral trauma differently than most schools of thought because I don’t believe we can be randomly burdened by transgenerational trauma.
In my own healing work and in work with my clients, I have seen that ancestral trauma is always connected to our own past life karma. And the ancestral lineage is a way we choose to help us heal past life wounding around the soul themes we share with our ancestors from our individual past life experiences. It’s a co-effort to help us heal these shared soul themes once and for all.
Last Friday as I was doing a Q&A on Ancestral Healing with my Soul Embodiment Therapy certification students I realized that even the concept of being able to heal seven generations forward and seven generations back didn’t sit right with me anymore.
It’s of course a complete ego trip to see ourselves as the generational curse breakers in the family, but also the idea that we are somehow being better or even superior than the other men and women in our lineage that we are healing for is just another ego trip.
The whole idea that through our own healing, we can heal others stinks. It can perhaps have a positive effect on family members because of our connection to them, but the idea that we can heal children already born from patterns passed down through our ancestral lineages doesn’t sit right with me.
Here’s why:
Because we aren’t randomly burdened with ancestral wounding and because it is connected to each family member’s own past life wounding, you would be magicking away someone else’s wounding without giving them the opportunity to understand and correct their own misunderstanding that they have been carrying with them throughout lifetimes and lifetimes.
Healing is not magicking things away, healing is understanding how something was created and letting it go once and for all.
Healing asks for a deep understanding, that is impossible to attain if our mothers or grandmothers for example would be able to simply remove our ancestral wounds by healing their own.
It’s too much wishful thinking for me.
Yes, if you have done your healing prior to conceiving a child then probably the ancestral wound or pattern wouldn’t be passed on. But I believe at best that when we heal transgenerational wounds and patterns for ourselves, that it can perhaps assist the others in our lineage to do the same, give an impulse, shift the energy, and make it easier, etc.
What I don’t believe when it comes to ancestral healing or any kind of healing, to be honest, is that we can heal others for them.
So despite it being very appealing to the ego to see itself as the hero and savior of the family lineage when it comes to ancestral healing, a great way to pat ourselves on the back and make ourselves feel and look special – I believe it’s just that the ego being the ego and not this unshakable spiritual truth.
Epigenetic science has confirmed that transgenerational trauma can be passed down at least three generations and what I have seen in my own work is that ancestral trauma is often deeply intertwined with both our past life as well as childhood wounding, which is why I believe that every human being needs to heal their own wounds for themselves as part of the soul liberation process and that would ancestral healing work the way it is often perceived within the spiritual community it would rob people of the understanding they need to liberate themselves.
It reminds me of the story of the butterfly.
Once upon a time, a man found a butterfly that was starting to hatch from its cocoon. He sat down and watched the butterfly for hours as it struggled to force itself through a tiny hole. Then, it suddenly stopped making progress and looked like it was stuck. Therefore, the man decided to help the butterfly out. He took a pair of scissors and cut off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily, although it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. The man thought nothing of it, and he sat there waiting for the wings to enlarge to support the butterfly. However, that never happened. The butterfly spent the rest of its life unable to fly, crawling around with small wings and a swollen body. Despite the man’s kind heart, he didn’t understand that the restricting cocoon and the struggle needed by the butterfly to get itself through the small hole were God’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings to prepare itself for flying once it was free.
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