Why Affirmations, Positive Thinking & The Law Of Attractions Aren’t Working For You

by Sabriyé Dubrie

Spiritual author, Multidimensional Healer, Founder of Soul Embodiment™ Therapy & the School of Soul Embodiment.

I received a client testimonial that inspired me to write this little musing on the Law of Attraction.

One of my Deep Dive Package clients (my private year container) wrote this:

“I seriously recommend working with Sabriyé if you’re ready for a life change. This level of healing is for people who truly want to get to the root of long-standing issues in their life. Before working with her I couldn’t figure out why my life wasn’t working despite working so hard on all aspects. I was constantly trying to “think more positively”, or create my life through the ”Law of Attraction” but wouldn’t get sustainable results- things would work out for a bit but then fall apart. This led me to do her VIP package- she helped me uncover and release so many deep layers of trauma that have kept me in self-sabotaging cycles and in “survival mode”. I now see that I was creating my life from a “trauma-based” perspective which led to some devastating circumstances.

Working with Sabriyé is not a typical session – her insights are SERIOUSLY brilliant and she connects patterns in a way that I’ve never seen before (and I’ve worked with quite a few people). I love her dedication– she doesn’t stop until we get to the root cause (which has taken me hours at times). I’m more present, feel clearer, and more peaceful. I’m much more in touch with who I am on a soul level. While I have had some exciting external changes (money, relationships), the biggest change has been how I am showing up in the world. I can’t recommend her enough!!!”

Renee, United States

Why the Law of Attraction doesn’t seem to be working

Despite the Law of Attraction, affirmations, and thinking positively being hugely popular at the moment, they often don’t work at all or only temporary and there’s a reason for that. In this little musing, I will unpack some of the reasons why although not incorrect or valuable they can’t lead to the miracle results long-term that are often being touted about this work because they are only being applied surface level.

Here’s why all three aren’t working for you as advertised:

The Law of Attraction

What Law of Attraction enthusiasts forget is that only 5% of our reality is created through conscious creation, the other 95% is created unconsciously. Even if the numbers might be a little bit more positive say 25%-75%, the odds are still in a way against us.

Why? The simple answer is to protect us.

If everything we desired would manifest instantly, we would really need to be careful what we wish for.

How often do we wish for something that we decide we don’t want as things become more clear or after we have had more time to think about it? Which is why we often don’t get what we want instantly.

But there’s also a deeper reason which is hardly taken into account when discussing the Law of Attraction, you see the Law of Attraction is always working, it’s just not working the way we think it does. Let me explain, the reason we don’t have the things that we want to manifest is because we have outdated past life, ancestral, and/or childhood beliefs that have our subconscious mind believe that it’s keeping us safe by not allowing the things we want into our lives or that have made us subconsciously decide we don’t deserve or are worthy of having them.

It’s these psychological patterns and subconscious programming that are subconsciously keeping the things; people, situations, and experiences which we consciously want out of our manifested reality. But not only that, they are pulling in the people, situations, and experiences that we often don’t like to help us heal these outdated beliefs that are subconsciously sabotaging our life.

The net result of this equation is that we get less of what we actually want and more of what we feel we don’t want in an attempt to heal our unresolved past. The solution to this problem is then healing our unresolved past, even when we have no clue consciously of what this unresolved past looks like – so that it stops hijacking our current day reality. Because we are the energy we attract, even if we aren’t conscious of the energy we subconsciously carry, it pulls in the people, situations, and experiences we live.

This is why Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung said “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” The Law of Attraction is working perfectly at all times, it’s just that most people teaching the Law of Attraction don’t actually understand the deeper workings of this law. They are stuck at the surface-level understanding of this concept, which is why it isn’t completely working for them or the people they teach it to. In other words, left unhealed our past is constantly using our current reality to find resolution.

Positive Thinking

It’s important to be, think, and stay positive which always works better than being negative – but not when it leads to trying to bypass the unwanted, undesired, uncomfortable, painful, etc. which we call spiritual or mentally/emotionally bypassing. So many in the high-vibe tribe are afraid to really feel their emotions and so they ignore them or push them away, afraid that if they allow themselves to go through them they will attract more negativity in their lives. I have even heard healers say that they believe that looking at our wounding just brings more wounding, which is not how it works.

The deeper you stuff emotions down into your subconscious the more it’s going to RULE your life.

Anything that we relegate to our shadow will come back with a vengeance. Especially when we believe that we are the energy that creates our reality, we need to clean out our pain-body as Eckhart Tolle calls it. This is the accumulation of our unresolved pain from our childhood, this lifetime, the pain we volunteered to carry for our ancestors, and what we brought in from previous lifetimes. In Sanskrit, these past painful impressions are called our Samskaras.

If you really want to be high vibed, you need to release all the lower vibrational energies you are still subconsciously carrying. If we look at David Hawkins’s Level of Consciousness scale, we see that all trauma-based emotions are the lowest vibrational frequency. These are the emotions we tend to stuff down in the shadow which doesn’t actually make them go away but instead attracts their corresponding energies (people, experiences, and situations) into our lives.

Because the Universe is always working for us, not against us – if we have deep unresolved shame, it will bring us people, situations, and experiences that will help us trigger that shame to help us release it. If we have deep unresolved guilt, it will bring us experiences of guilt. If we have deep repressed anger, we will attract situations to be angry about.

‘It’ being our subconscious mind. Do you want to know why?

Because left unchecked these unresolved emotions harm us mentally, emotionally, vibrationally, and often even physically through the mind-body connection. Rather than let these emotions rot and fester within us, endangering both our wholeness and our survival the subconscious mind pulls in the people, situations, and experiences that help us bring these emotions into our conscious awareness to help us heal them once and for all.

This is however both a lengthy as well as painful process to play out our unresolved pain through our life experiences often with the people we wish would love us the most. So, rather than play out these emotions we can use therapeutic work to clear them out which results in much less drama in our lives.

As souls we are all these higher vibrations we don’t need to become them, rather we need to remove all the stuck emotions that keep us imprisoned in lower vibrational frequencies and realities. We are ascending from 3D to 5D and it’s these lower vibrational frequencies that we carry unconsciously that are keeping us stuck in old emotions and dimensional realities.


Last but not least, the reason why affirmations don’t work the way we hope they would is because we are trying to black-box reprogram the subconscious mind, This can NEVER work this way because the subconscious mind governed by our soul is infinitely stronger than the conscious mind governed by the ego.

The ego cannot force its will on the soul, in the same way, that the conscious cannot force its will on the subconscious.

The reason why this is impossible grabs back to what I explained in the law of attraction section, as long as we have subconscious programming and psychological patterns that contradict the message we are trying to imprint on the subconscious mind through affirmations it will not budge.

In fact, more often than not it (the subconscious mind) will respond by creating more of what we don’t want by doubling down on what it subconsciously believes, pulling in more evidence of its beliefs through the people, situations, and experiences that show up in our lives.

Have you ever noticed that things got worse the more you tried to make them better? This is why.

The solution is to find the original story (lived or a passed down experience) that created the subconscious contradicting belief. Florence Scovel Shinn grandmother of metaphysics calls this the King-Pin.

Find the thought which is your great oppressor; find the King-Pin.

‘In the logging camps in the Spring, the logs are sent down the rivers in great numbers. Sometimes the logs become crossed and cause a jam; the men look for the log causing the jam (they call it the King-Pin), straighten it, and the logs rush down the river again.’ 

Florence Scovel Shinn, The Secret Door to Success

We all have multiple King-Pins that are keeping us from having what we truly desire.

In the Soul Embodiment™ Therapy sessions, I bring my clients back to the original wound that created the King-Pin that is blocking their good in their current situation. Rather than simply trying to force a new belief on the subconscious mind, I help my clients make conscious the unconscious story that created the contradicting belief. It’s by revisiting the circumstances in which the King-Pin was created that we can directly reprogram the subconscious mind without using force or not knowing what the contradicting belief is in the first place. This doesn’t take multiple sessions, because once you have seen the truth you can’t unsee it. In general, it just takes that one session to remove the King-Pin or reprogram the subconscious mind.

Instead of fighting with ghosts and shadows, we can find the log causing the jam, straighten it, and allow flow back into our lives.

Finally getting the results you want

In Soul Embodiment™ Therapy we address all three issues listed above; we heal unresolved pain and trauma we didn’t even know we were carrying, we release deeply stuck emotions once and for all and we reprogram the subconscious mind by removing the trauma-based distortions that are keeping us from living our Divine Soul Blueprint and having all that is ours by Divine Right.

You do not need to be a basket case to carry unresolved trauma or emotions, many of my clients are from normal families or even privileged backgrounds, Trauma doesn’t always need to be with a big T to impact us, trauma with a little t can sabotage us as well.

Many of my current clients are psychologists, psychiatrists, therapists, and healers because this modality is so effective in truly addressing our root causes at the deepest (soul path) level. Like many of my clients I have worked with many different healers and modalities and I have found nothing as effective for reprogramming the subconscious mind as Soul Embodiment Therapy.

Do you want the Law of Attraction to finally start working for you the way you want?

Book a Soul Embodiment™ Therapy Session with me.

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Book a Soulology or Soul Embodiment™ Therapy session with me to find the psychological patterns and subconscious programming that are keeping you from creating the life and reality you dream of.

You can also join my signature program Coming into Oneness for a step-by-step manual to the Soul Embodiment process. This program is a 12-month immersion into coming back into Oneness with your soul.

It’s through healing the wounded ego, that we not only embody our soul – but unlock our soul’s superpower to create the reality we dream of.

Have you tried everything else to manifest the life of your dreams, but failed?

This is because your ego and your soul aren’t on the same page. The key to unlocking your private version of Paradise is healing the separation between the ego and your soul.

With my deepest love,

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