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7 Reasons Why the Law of Attraction is Not Working for You the Way You Want It To

by Sabriyé Dubrie

Spiritual author, Multidimensional Healer, Founder of Soul Embodiment® Therapy & the School of Soul Embodiment.

Ultimate Guide to Soul Embodiment

In this Soul teaching on 7 reasons why the law of attraction is not working for you the way you want it to you will learn:

  • The 7 reasons why the law of attraction may not be working for you the way you hoped
  • How our unresolved past hijacks our current reality thwarting our manifestation efforts
  • How and where you are potentially giving away your creational power
  • How to become the captain of your own ship
  • And more….

Is the Law of Attraction not working for you?

If your answer is ‘YES!’ trust me you are not alone, many people struggle to make the Law of Attraction truly work for them and it is not due to a lack of effort. Rather it’s because the concept of the Law of Attraction has become so popularized that it has become a water-downed version of what it actually is. This water-downed popularized version has excluded vital parts you need to understand to be able to co-create with the great Law of Attraction to unlock your Heaven on Earth, aka the life of your dreams.

I recently wrote a short musing on why the Law of Attraction doesn’t work for many people the way they had hoped, like my client Renee a six-figure medical professional looking to scale to the seven figures. The fact that you are already successful doesn’t necessarily mean that the Law of Attraction is working for you in the way you want or in the area of your life that you are applying it to.

In this Soul teaching, we will explore the various reasons why people struggle in general to make the Law of Attraction work for them the way they want as well as how to move past even the biggest subconscious blocks and obstacles that are keeping your deepest heart’s desires from manifesting in your life.

But even if you are an Ace at manifesting, you will not be disappointed with the deeper insights I will share with you today that will really help you up your manifestation game. I know many of my clients, students and followers have been waiting for me to write about this because they want to know the new paradigm perspective on the Law of Attraction.

This is not just another quick-fix solution

What you will not find in this Soul Teaching is just another superficial mindset hack or wishful thinking solution that will miraculously make the Law of Attraction work for you. I don’t do quick fixes, because as we all know quick fixes tend to backfire on us as we try to skip the actual growth process of where we are now to where we actually want to be.

I was reminded this week of a Paulo Coelho quote from one of my favorite books the Alchemist:

And what went wrong when other alchemists tried to make gold and were unable to do so?”


“They were looking only for gold his companion answered. They were seeking the treasure of their personal legend, without wanting actually to live out the personal legend.”

― Paulo Coelho

Too many people try to fast-forward to the end result, trying to skip the actual process that allows us to step into the next evolution of ourselves that already has what we deeply desire but currently don’t have. Much of what you will find in books and online on the Law of Attraction is playing into people’s desire to get results fasts, but as the quote from the Alchemist explains we cannot have our desired end result without taking the journey that leads us there no matter what it is that you are desiring to bring into your life. It doesn’t matter whether that’s finding your soulmate or manifesting a Twin Flame union, a house, a new car, a business, more clients, and so on. There’s no ‘gaming the system’ if you want to create sustainable results.

When I thought of this quote I also thought of my own experience on the Twin Flame journey, like everyone who has ever experienced such a deep connection with another living being I wanted nothing more than to be with this person for the rest of my life at that time. It’s close to nine and a half years ago that we met and what I have really realized over the years looking back is that I would have not been able to become the person I am today if we had come together back then. Nor would this relationship have played out any different than all of my other love relationships because of all the subconscious wounding I didn’t even know I was carrying.

I was being pointed out these things by my guides in relationship to a current manifestation process which helped me realize that I needed to embrace the process deeper, just as I had done in my Twin Flame journey, and not try to fast-forward to the end result already. This just goes to show that even those who teach the Law of Attraction can still get ahead of themselves. We all have our blind spots and I hope by writing this Soul teaching you will spot some of your own, so that you can correct them and finally get the results that you want.

What makes me an expert on the Law of Attraction?

I have been working with the Law of Attraction for the past couple of decades, years before it became popularized by Oprah or books and movies such as The Secret. I have used the Law of Attraction to manifest money including 5 figure months and 6 figure years, book deals, media exposure, several dream homes, cars, two years of traveling the world with my family staying in five-star hotels, jobs, getting off of welfare (2011), emigrating to a different country with a warmer climate, massively upgrading my lifestyle and more.

For those on the Twin Flame journey, I manifested meeting my person in real life and being able to sleep in his arms just as I had wanted to. To me, however, the reward of the Twin Flame journey is not a romantic outcome with the twin although that does happen in some cases, the actual reward of this journey is becoming who you truly are on a soul level. Many people don’t get to this stage because they are stuck in moving Heaven on Earth to manifest a romantic outcome.

But the fact that there are so few actual Twin Flame unions, show us that this approach doesn’t work. The only thing that you can do is become this person that can give and receive love at this higher level and let things fall into place the way they are meant to, whether that is with this person or someone even better suited to be your life partner. This is why for people on the Twin Flame journey, reason #4 is the number one reason why they are stuck chasing their tails when it comes to manifesting love.

Although there are things that I still want to manifest such as taking my business to the seven figures and attracting a romantic love relationship in my life I have a pretty impressive track record when it comes to working with the Law of Attraction. Through my vast experience of working with the subconscious mind in the Soul Embodiment® Therapy sessions, I have also found an often overlooked aspect of how the subconscious mind factors into the manifestation process.

My clients have gotten amazing results as well after working with me. I have had clients with a house that would not sell get a cash offer on the same day of our Soul Embodiment® Therapy session when they had not had any viewings in multiple months, a client who won an all-expenses-paid luxury retreat ($9,999) to Egypt, clients who come back together with the person they love, I have helped clients revive broken marriages on the brink of divorce, or take their business to the next level and much more.

So, not only have I been hugely successful in working with the Law of Attraction in my own life, I have been very successful in helping my clients create the businesses and lives that they dream of for the past decade.

Even in my internet business coach days, I was teaching my students and clients to work with the Law of Attraction. The Soul Embodiment Therapy sessions have only increased the level of results my clients are able to get working with me. Because I am so experienced with working with trauma on both a current incarnation as well as a soul path level, I can help my clients move through the deepest subconscious blocks that they have not been able to get past on their own or by using other healing modalities.

7 reasons why the Law of Attraction is NOT working for you

To further deepen into the underlying dynamics of what thwarts our manifestation process, let’s explore the seven reasons why the Law of Attraction isn’t working for you  You will have probably found that some things are easier for you to manifest, while other things stay firmly out of reach. When this is the case, it’s often one of the seven reasons below that are keeping your more ‘difficult’ manifestations in limbo land. You can use the list below to troubleshoot your manifestation process when you run into blocks or delays.

Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

― C.G. Jung

Reason #1 Your unresolved past is hijacking your current reality

Although many people love the above Carl Jung quote, it’s not always fully understood. This is largely due to the fact that we are unaware (not conscious) of our unconscious and subconscious wounding. In other words, we don’t know what we don’t know. But it is our subconscious and unconscious drives that are dictating our fate without us realizing it.

In this way, our unresolved past on both a current incarnation level (childhood), as well as a soul path level (past lives), is hijacking our current reality in order to try to heal the past once and for all. It does this by pulling in the people, situations, and experiences that help us PLAY out our wounds in an attempt to make them conscious so that healing can take place.

This is not just true for some of us, this is true for all of us. All of humanity is carrying their unresolved past with them and using their ‘here and now’ to play out their subconscious and unconscious unresolved pain as well as false beliefs created in previous timelines. In many cases, this process interferes with creating the life and business we dream of now because healing our unresolved past has a higher priority to the soul. While at the same time, our unresolved past often prevents us from being able to allow in the levels of abundance. love, health, and success we crave because our nervous system can’t yet hold the frequency of this new reality.

When we carry a lot of unresolved (past life) baggage it consumes the nervous system’s bandwidth and keeps us stuck at lower receiving levels than when we have cleared out our unresolved past which increases our ability to feel safe to receive. The reason why the soul path or our past lives plays such a pivotal role is because this is where our psychological patterns and subconscious programming are created. This is something I explain in depth in this Soul teaching on Past Life Psychology, How Past Life Imprints Subconsciously Still Dictate Our Lives Today.

When we do not take our healing to the soul path level, we leave in the roots of our unresolved past and continue to trip over them at the most inopportune moments. They direct our lives as if it was fate when just like Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz we had the power all along to change our destiny.

Reason #2 You’re not actually being high-vibed

Many newcomers to the Law of Attraction become part of the high-vibed tribe, believing that if they put their attention on their painful emotions, their fears, or what they consider to be negative that they will somehow manifest more of this. Some people also believe and teach that you can bypass healing altogether or that diving into your unresolved wounds will only manifest more wounding.

None of this is true. In fact, repressed and disowned emotions are a lot more ‘dangerous’ than felt and expressed emotions simply because they will as we saw in reason #1 hijack your current reality. Not only do unresolved emotions hijack our current reality attracting the people, situations, and experiences we need to play them out, but every emotion also has its own vibrational frequency. The emotions most associated with trauma and regularly labeled as so-called negative emotions have the lowest vibrational frequencies. When we suppress, repress, or disown our emotions we actually trap them in our vibrational field. This doesn’t raise our vibrational frequency, it instead lowers it.

This behavior is often referred to as bypassing, whether you call it mental, emotional, or spiritual bypassing the effect is the same, the emotions and their vibrational frequency become trapped in the mental, emotional, physical, and vibrational body where they tend to fester and rot. This causes stagnation in our meridians and chakras, painful mental and emotional states, and can even create disease in the body. Stuffing down or denying your emotions is never a good idea which we of course also do when we have active addictions such as smoking, alcohol, drugs including so-called sacred plants for recreational use, sex, shopping, eating, gambling, and so on.

To truly become high-vibed we need to clean out these emotions and we do so by not only allowing ourselves to feel our way through them, which allows them to release but also by facing our unresolved past including the emotions that we are subconsciously and unconsciously hiding from ourselves.

Many healers and therapists have successfully dealt with large parts of in any case their current lifetime past and sometimes even a good deal of their past life past, the next level for them then is allowing in the emotions that they are even hiding from themselves. You will be surprised at how much unresolved pain, anger, grief, hopelessness, helplessness as well as fear, jealousy, hatred, and resentment you have not been able to allow yourself to feel and it’s these emotions that prevent you from being as high-vibed as you can be.

Instead of playing pretend with yourself and the world, it’s better to allow yourself to truly be high-vibed.

Reason #3 You’re sending mixed messages to the Universe

We can send mixed messages to the Universe in multiple different ways:

  • By not being clear on what you want but instead only focusing on what you don’t want
  • By trying to manifest multiple ‘bigger’ things at once, instead focus on one thing at a time – energy flows where the attention goes
  • By having a Plan B; a security net or a Plan B splits our energy and makes us energetically have one foot out of the door in case things go wrong
  • By not preparing for what you want – you don’t want it? You don’t believe it’s coming? Why are you energetically not all in?
  • By subconsciously believing that you can’t have what you want, don’t deserve it, or aren’t worthy of it
  • By not going all in energetically to avoid being disappointed when you find out in the end that you maybe can’t have what your want
  • And so on, everywhere where you are energetically saying I want this, but……..

It really doesn’t matter why you’re half in, afraid to be full in, with one foot out of the door, in split energy, or afraid of not getting what you want for whatever reason. The end result is the same, there’s not enough oomph behind your manifestation process and so the Universe responds in kind with obstacles, delays, and less-than-desirable outcomes because the external reality is only reflecting back to you your own wonky energy. Fix your own energy and you will get different results.

No man gives to himself but himself, and no man takes away from himself but himself: the “Game of Life” is a game of solitaire, as you change, all conditions will change.”

Floren Scovel Shinn

Reason #4 You’re too attached to the outcome

The fourth reason why you can feel that the Law of Attraction isn’t working for you is because you’re too attached and fixated on the outcome. Sarah Prout tells us that this creates vibrational constipation while Florence Scovell Shinn grandmother of metaphysics taught that “Your big opportunity and big success usually slide in, when you least expect it. You have to let go long enough for the great law of attraction to operate. You never saw a worried and anxious magnet. It stands up straight and hasn’t a care in the world, because it knows needles can’t help jumping to it. The things we rightly desire come to pass when we have taken the clutch off.”

Florence also taught us to not let our heart’s desire become a heart’s disease.“You are completely demagnetized when you desire something too intensely. You worry, fear, and agonize. There is an occult law of indifference: “None of these things move me.” Your ships come in over a don’t care sea.”

When we desire something too strongly it’s not even that we are ‘too much in’ energetically, it’s that we are not letting go out of fear of not having what we so desperately want. But you cannot have what you cling to. In my days as a Twin Flame teacher, people were often afraid that this meant that they needed to not want their person but it of course doesn’t. Yet it’s that very fear itself, that shows how attached they were to the outcome. I would teach them ‘this or something/someone better’ and they would immediately say there is no one better than this person.

When you find yourself clinging to what you want in such a way and this doesn’t ONLY apply to Twin Flames, every woman that has had difficulty conceiving in the past knows how obsessed you can become with wanting to be pregnant and have a child – especially when your biological clock is ticking. In many of these cases, when the women let go of their baby obsession and relaxed they got pregnant not long after.

If what you’re hoping to manifest stays stuck, do yourself a favor and let go, This allows the energy to flow again and gives the situation the energetic space to fix itself. When you want something too intensely it locks the energy around it and creates the very stagnation you are experiencing.

You fix this by releasing your firm grip, you do not need to grasp or cling to something or someone in order to have what you want. Those are fear-based states that indicate that you have more riding on this than manifesting your heart’s desire. It’s a trap to for example believe that having your heart’s desire manifest is the ONLY way you will ever be happy (you can replace happiness with anything else). Happiness comes from within and cannot be gained long-term through external circumstances, sure having what you want can give you a short-term hit of dopamine that has you high on the clouds but when that wears off you will be back to who you were before, still firmly believing that your happiness lies outside of you.

Faux surrendering is another way that this can manifest, you may not be holding on too tight but you may still be holding on by your pinkies which means that you have not let go completely. In order to manifest ANYTHING you desire, you have to be willing to let it go, any holding on intense or just slightly will interfere with the Law of Attraction being able to work for you in the way that you want it to.

Reason #5 Your subconscious beliefs are canceling out your manifestation

This is one of the primary reasons that you can feel that the Law of Attraction isn’t working for you and it grabs back to reason #1 your unresolved past. This can play out in three different ways:

  • You have unresolved trauma around that which you want to manifest, your subconscious mind believes it’s not safe for you to have what you want and is protecting you by canceling out your manifestation.
  • You subconsciously believe you don’t deserve what you want to have which is often connected to a pattern of self-punishment as a way to make amends for something you did in a past life or perhaps even in your current life that you are still subconsciously holding against yourself. Guilt seeks punishment and the best way to punish ourselves is to deny ourselves the things we deeply desire.
  • You subconsciously believe that you aren’t worthy of having what you want. This belief stems from both childhood and past life wounding around ‘not being good enough’ or being ‘bad’ in the eyes of the Divine (God) or your parents who are your ‘makers’ on an Earthly level. Subconscious wounding around being punished by God plays into this as well. If EVEN your creator (parents) cannot love you, there must be something wrong with you or you are unloveable, etc. Not that this is factually true but this is what you subconsciously believe about yourself. Childhood abuse, neglect, and a narcissistic parent can really chomp at your feelings of self-worth, but there is always a deeper corresponding wound to our childhood trauma on a soul path level. In other words, we often have had many previous lifetimes where we struggled with low self-worth as well because all of our deepest psychological patterns and subconscious programming are created on a soul path (past-life) level.

Through journaling and self-inquiry you might be able to access the tip of the iceberg on this kind of subconscious wounding, but if you really want to do something that actually moves the needle in a significant way you need to work with someone who can bring you to the original wound on a soul path level. This type of wounding is lodged so deep, it’s next to impossible to access yourself. But it’s often these subconscious wounds that are keeping you from making your next uplevel.

Let me give you an example from my own life, in 2012 I was invited to be part of a project to help women entrepreneurs make their first 100K in business. At that time around 90% of female entrepreneurs in the Netherlands made less than 100K in their business, the problem was that those statistics included me. I had successfully gotten myself off of welfare through the internet, but we weren’t making 100K a year either. I like to walk my talk so I set an income goal of 10K revenue a month and rather than this somehow magically aligning in the stars for me, everything went South real fast. Instead of making more money, I made less, multiple clients stopped paying their payment plans, new clients stopped coming in and I was on the brink of losing everything including my home because I was two months behind on my rent.

Things were looking bad for a couple of months, then in working with a healer I saw a past life where I carried deep trauma around money which had created the false belief that ‘being rich meant losing everything, including myself’. Things started rapidly improving from there and a couple of months later I had my first ever 5-figure month. Healing this subconscious trauma that was canceling out my conscious desire to make more money was what allowed me to uplevel to 5-figure months and in the end 6-figure years.

Other examples of subconscious beliefs that are canceling out your manifestations are visibility wounds, receiving wounds, wounding around being chosen, wounds around power, imposter syndrome, people pleasing, and so on. If your conscious desires trigger your subconscious protection. defense or survival mechanisms then it will cancel out the physical manifestation of your conscious desire.

Say you want to be successful in your business or get a promotion at the company you work for, subconscious visibility wounds can make it feel impossible to have the success you desire. Or perhaps you want to step into a leadership role in your job or in your industry, but you have subconscious wounds around power, those will first need to be addressed in order to be able to access your power again.

But it can be even more subtle than that, say you have difficulties receiving, you have money struggles and you are living a reality where everything rides on your shoulders whether you are with a partner or you’re a single parent. It could be that you have a collapsed inner masculine and a rigid inner feminine that is creating the above reality experience. I gave a free masterclass on the inner masculine & feminine shadow archetypes that you can access in our free Facebook group. Download the handout and then watch the replay here, you may need to join first.

Reason #6 You’re being protected against yourself

You’ve probably heard ‘man’s rejection is god’s protection’ or ‘man’s rejection is god’s redirection’. Sometimes what we want isn’t for our highest good and our soul can literally block its manifestation because it has bigger and better plans for us than our egos can even fathom.

It’s not that you aren’t meant to have what you want, but that there’s a better way for you to have it. This often happens when we cling to a certain person that really is not meant for us, nor an experience we need to have. You might be deeply infatuated with someone and then a truth is revealed that opens your eyes or they simply end up disappearing from your life without a trace because being with them is not part of your Divine plan. That is one way that this can play out.

The other way that this can be played out is that you’re being blocked from making more karma. One of the reasons why manifesting in the old paradigm is slowed down is because most people are creating from their ego desires and not their soul’s desires. Imagine a world where our words said in anger and pain would instantly manifest, we would often deeply regret what we created. This is why until we have purified ourselves of our unresolved pain we are limited in our ability to manifest instantly. Sure, some things that we have little resistance around and that don’t truly matter one way or the other can quickly manifest but in many cases, our manifestations are slower because we are still in a more denser energy state and because the higher self and our soul are protecting us against our own egoic impulses.

“Before a dream is realized, the Soul of the World tests everything that was learned along the way. It does this not because it is evil, but so that we can, in addition to realizing our dreams, master the lessons we’ve learned as we’ve moved toward that dream. That’s the point at which most people give up. It’s the point at which, as we say in the language of the desert, one ‘dies of thirst just when the palm trees have appeared on the horizon.”

Reason #7 You’re going through a Soul initiation

Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

If you have surrendered and you have worked with healers on your subconscious blocks and you have taken inspired action, etc. your problem might not be one of the Law of Attraction not working for you. It might be that you are in the midst of a Soul initiation, which is not to initiate the soul but to initiate the 3D personality/ego into returning to a deeper aspect of its original soul state. In this case, it’s not about the 3D manifestation but about who you are becoming in the process of pursuing your heart’s desire.

Examples of Soul initiations are for example:

  • Shifting into unconditional love which is often learned in difficult relationship dynamics such as in Twin Flame or Soulmate connections. It’s easy to love someone unconditionally that does everything the way you want it and when you want it. It’s much harder to love someone that is not giving you what you want from them (without being abusive obviously).
  • Shifting out of scarcity into unlimited abundance which are lessons often best learned in times of scarcity, because times of abundance can’t teach you this.
  • Shifting from doingness into beingness, this is a process that requires the healing of the inner feminine and inner masculine so that we can truly lean back, be vulnerable, receive, and let things come to us rather than going out into the world to make it happen which at some point in our soul evolution ceases to work for us.
  • Shifting into unconditional trust in the Divine or life and feeling safe in the world, our need for control and desire to micromanage come from not feeling safe in the hands of the Divine. Soul initiations meant to help us shift into unconditional trust challenge us to trust anyway even when things look dicey and you aren’t sure it will all turn out okay.
  • Shifting into joy by learning to find the source of your happiness within, instead of externally. Obviously, such a soul initiation asks us to walk a dull and lackluster path, maybe even limiting our finances so we can’t escape into external distractions such as going out, eating, drinking, hanging out with friends, shopping, traveling, etc. This allows us the time and space to really unlock our source of happiness within.

These are just a few examples of what Soul initiations can look like which may mean that you need to go deeper into your healing process and book a session with a healer. But above all, it requires a deeper surrender. No more, dipping your toes into the shallow end to test the waters but instead diving deep into what the Soul initiation is here to help you shift. You cannot have a full transformation without a full surrender to the process.

Your subconscious is constantly creating your reality

Whether you like the experience you’re currently living or not, both the so-called desirable and undesirable realities you experience are created by your subconscious mind. I often end up over-emphasizing that this does NOT mean you are to blame for the bad things that have happened to you. It’s not your fault, because the word subconscious literally means of or concerning the part of the mind of which one is not fully aware but which influences one’s actions and feelings. So you can’t blame people for not seeing what they are unable to see or not knowing what they don’t know.

But I often don’t emphasize enough the power that lies in taking responsibility for our subconscious creations nonetheless because that is how we take back our power over them. For example, after my fourth child who died a couple of days after birth, I have not been able to get back to my original weight. After three children I was super slim with a European size 34/36 which is size 4/6 in the United States. After the pregnancy, I was stuck at a size 42/44 which are sizes 12/14 in the United States. It was a big difference.

I worked intensely on the trauma of losing a child. I also hired a personal trainer and tried every diet and change in lifestyle that you can imagine. I even spent around $1000 doing a liver detox in Dubai with IV drips I was so desperate to lose weight. Although I am not morbidly obese, this is neither my normal nor ideal weight.

I was very determined to get my weight down. But with little to no results because even after three months of training three times a week with a personal trainer and her deciding what I ate, I only lost one kilo which isn’t even your full water weight. The problem was also that walking and exercising actually made me gain weight instead of lose weight and especially in the last couple of years I felt utterly powerless to change my weight no matter what I did. I did have success using hormone replacement therapy, but this came with side effects I didn’t want.

Then I read the book Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliott recently and I realized the BIG mistake I had been making. By not taking responsibility for unconsciously creating my excess weight for whatever reason (the kink aspect in her work isn’t my thing) I was making myself a victim of external circumstances and this created the internal narrative that I was powerless to change my weight.

Deliberately taking my power back in this area of my life and two others where I noticed I was doing the exact same thing, started a shift inside of me. Initially, all I did was be willing to accept the responsibility for my subconscious and unconscious creations and admit to myself that at some level I wanted this situation because otherwise, it wouldn’t be there.

This allows us to release the internal resistance we feel towards what we don’t want, by acknowledging that the fact that it’s there is evidence of our wanting it for whatever kinky f*cked up reason and I have to say that did bring a big shift. It opened up deeper intuitive guidance and with two small tweaks that weren’t even geared at losing weight, my weight is dropping at a higher rate than it has in decades.

The moral of the story is that when you remove your inner judgment and resistance to what you DON’T want – it can shift. I teach this, it’s part of the curriculum in one of my programs. But that’s the thing, knowing things and truly embodying them are NOT the same thing. I applied this knowledge of non-resistance consciously to many areas of my life EXCEPT for the areas that I felt were out of my control. By reclaiming my power and acknowledging that I had unintentionally created my weight even if I didn’t understand how or why, it shifted the energy, and instead of seeing evidence that no matter what I do the weight doesn’t come off or stay off now I am seeing evidence that I do have power over my weight when before it wouldn’t budge or I would lose some weight and just gain it all back.

What changed in the before and after situation was my perception of my own power over this situation. Taking back our responsibility for our unconscious creations is therefore a powerful tool that can help us find the areas in our lives where we have given away our personal power, which then becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy where we become literal victims and hostages of our own unconscious creations. If this resonates definitely buy Carolyn’s book because she explains it brilliantly.

Becoming the captain of your own ship

The end goal is to become the captain of your own ship. Most human beings are not captains of their own ship, they are instead being lived by their unresolved past. In many cases, they are left rudderless in the middle of the sea or feel defeated because they just can’t seem to get ahead. This is because until we heal our unresolved past we are forced to relive it, whether we like it or not.

The only true way to become the captain of your own ship and to be able to set the course you want is to firmly close the door on the past. If there are no past life imprints in your subconscious that need to be healed, there’s no hijacking of your current reality by your unresolved pain. Yeah, I know that it’s much more interesting to have what you want right now rather than to go dig into your past but it’s not just about being able to set your own course as the captain of your ship, it’s about being able to enter a new state of consciousness and being called Heaven on Earth. A state of being, where your life is completely aligned with your Divine plan and every aspect of your life is in Divine Order. A state of perfect alignment with your soul and what is yours by Divine right.

This is what it means to take your manifesting skills to the Soul level which I teach you how to do step-by-step in my signature program Coming into Oneness that you can join all year round.

By cleaning out the subconscious of our unresolved past both on a current life level as well as a soul path level, we get the conscious and the subconscious on the same page. They are at odds at the moment because they have conflicting agendas, the conscious mind wants what it wants now while the subconscious mind is still digesting its past and can’t help but bring it up again because it’s still there and it still hurts.

As long as you have this dynamic going on between your conscious and your subconscious mind, it is going to be difficult to get them to agree on things and create the reality you dream of. It’s getting the subconscious and the conscious mind on the same page that supercharges the Law of Attraction for you.

But it also gets the ego and the soul on the same page because it’s our subconscious and unconscious wounds that create the separation between the ego and the soul. When we heal our subconscious and unconscious wounds, we heal the wounded ego which allows the ego and the soul to join forces in the same way that the conscious and the subconscious have joined forces. This is how we unlock our Heaven on Earth.

So, although it might seem more comfortable to leave the unresolved past alone – it actually isn’t because it keeps us stuck in cycles of unresolved pain as we are forced to PLAY out our subconscious wounds when we don’t clear them out. But not only that, it keeps us from truly living our Divine birthright in all areas of our lives as our ego remains in a tug of war with our soul.

I pray that reading this Soul teaching helps you get the Law of Attraction to finally start working for you the way it should. As per usual it’s a lot to digest, one of the reasons I have chosen to keep the teachings in a longer format is that it makes the topics easier to revisit when you feel called. We have also added a Table of Content that you can open to quickly find what you are looking for when you want to revisit any specific part of a teaching. As you progress in your Soul Embodiment process you will find that there are deeper layers in the Soul teachings that you perhaps didn’t catch reading them the first time. This is why we have made it as easy as possible to go back and reread them.

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The key to unlocking your Heaven on Earth is healing on a Soul path level.

Everything you want is only being blocked by your subconscious Soul path wounding. The reason why so many people fail to create the life and the reality that they dream of is because their subconscious false beliefs and Soul path wounds are holding them back.

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